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By R. David Silva
Don’t Forget Your Manners: Say “Thanks.”
1. Disagreements are OK. It may sound contradictory, but arguments between colleagues can actually be a sign that the relationship has a good foundation. Indifference to each other signifies a relationship that may not be healthy. Colleagues who care enough to disagree can still respect each other. Next time you find yourself in a war of words with your colleagues, don’t give up and walk away. Use the disagreement as a jumping-off point for coming to a resolution — and then shake and make up!
2. If you respect them, give them some space. Most people change as they develop over the years in their career and this should not come as a surprise to us. You need to allow colleagues the freedom to grow and not want them to be the same as we first knew them. If you encourage their growth and change, they will appreciate your support.
3. Be a Team Player. Do not assume that you know everyone's position or thoughts about different projects. This means that you need to discuss and consult with your colleagues before making decisions that will affect their work or role in the project.
4. Show interest in your relationship. When you’ve been separated from your colleagues for some time (even if it was just for one work day), greet them enthusiastically, rather than just glancing up or nodding when they return. It may seem trivial, but think about the feeling that it creates when you give them just a few moments of attention and inquire how things are going or what happened during their absence.
5. Don’t forget your manners: Say “Thanks.” It’s easy to get wrapped up in what we are doing and lose sight of what our colleagues are doing that's helpful for us. Showing appreciation will build positive feelings toward you, which will benefit your relationship.
6. Get good feedback. Even if your relationship is longer-term, it’s never too late to ask your colleagues this one simple question: “Is there anything I can do to make our working relationship more productive?” Listen carefully to the response. If nothing else, you’ll discover which of your actions are the most appreciated and which behaviors to modify moving forward.
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R. David Silva
Business Editor
Business Consultant R. D. has 25+ years experiencein the world of business & marketing.
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